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Birthing
a New Reality
If you’ve taken an Enlightenment Intensive
Retreat, you would have had some very profound experiences of transformation,
healing and awakening. Those experiences birthed at the Enlightenment
Retreat are like new born babies. They need tender loving care to
continue their growth into maturity.
They need your attention to thrive in a world environment
that is not particularly sensitive to spiritually young, vulnerable
and innocent states of being.
Newly revealed states of emotional openness and
spiritual elevation can easily be forgotten or covered up in the
fast paced, busy, consumer driven environment of alienated modern
living. Within months, weeks, or even days of their birth,
they can begin to be thought of as only a dream, a fantasy or at
best the memory of something past.
How can you best support the development and evolution
of the new awakened reality?
You can bring some or all of the elements into
your daily life that make up the supportive structure and environment
of the Enlightenment Retreat. Here's a few of those supportive elements.
Making
Sacred Space. At the closing circle of all Enlightenment
Retreats I briefly outline a few of the supportive factors that
help to make the Enlightenment Retreat a Sacred and Holy Space
that is supportive of an awakened life. Many of these same supportive
factors can be brought into your daily life to continually nurture
the forever young and youthful Awakened Mind.
Treating
Others With Kindness. One of the most important things
we can do is treat others with kindness. Refrain from criticising,
abusing, making others wrong and trying to change them. The egomind
wants to get its own way. When it doesn't get its way, it goes
into reactivity of one kind or another and projects blame and
victimhood. Sometimes it's strategy is to strikes out, sometimes
to withdraw and pout. Ignore it. If you want a Divine Life and
not an egomind life, then surrendering to the divinity in another
instead of fighting the ego battles of 'being right' is a life
of letting go, forgeviness and acceptance. If you can sincerely
open up and at the same time not hurt another, then you can create
situations in which direct absolute knowing of your true nature
can spontaneikously occur. Some call it Love, some call it Wisdom,
some say nothing as they embrace the Silence.
The
"Who Am I" Meditation. This self reflective meditation
can be a solo contemplation, a communication dyad with a friend or
writtten in a journal. Breathe, feel and tell the truth about what
is arising in your universe. Doing this act of 'truth telling' will
clear the mind, soften the heart and open the body.
A Simple & Pure
Diet. The
body must have sufficient strength and stamina to continue and
persist with the effort needed for intense contemplation and
communication at the Retreat. A pure diet that is light enough
not to burden the body and mind but nutritious enough to maintain
daily activities is best.
A
Regular Meditation Practise. A
regular daily meditation practise keeps you connected to
the Source, relaxes the bodymind and increases your ability
to hold your attention one pointedly on what you want to
directly experience. Medical research studies show that two
10 to 15 minute meditation sessions each day stimulates the
Relaxation Response in your body as opposed to the Flight
or Fight stress response.
A
Balanced Daily Schedule of Activitie. The Enlightenment
Retreat provides a balanced schedule of daily activities that
heal, purify and awaken the body, mind and feelings to the
truth of yourself. Meditative activities helps to dissolve
the resistence and impurities of the body, mind, and emotions
and lessens the opportunities for taking on new impurities
and resistences.
The
Dyad Communication Technique. What an incredibly
simple, yet powerful technqiue for clearing the mind, speaking
the truth and deepending understanding between yourself and
others. The Dyad Techniqe can be used for clearing relationships,
reducing stress, problem solving, spiritual awakening and more.
Doing a formal dyad once a week or more with a friend or partner
is a great way to nurture and awaken your soul. Check out the
Knowing Your Self book of 100 dyad exercises and a gong CD
with written and audio instructions on how to do dyads.
Surrender
& Grace. The enlightenment experience is an act
of surrender to that which already is. There is nothing you can
do to make it happen. You can only be open to the way things actually
are. You can do things to support and help create the ideal situation
for the Truth to be revealed but you cannot force it to appear.
It is beyond egomind control and beyond your desire. Practise surrender
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Yoga,
Enlightenment & Self Enquiry
In the past most westerners thought yoga only meant
Hatha Yoga or exercises for the body. That ’s changing as westerners
continue to deepen their study, understanding and personal practice
of the various disciplines of yoga.
Hatha yoga is the yoga of strengthening, purifying
and healing the body. Raja Yoga is the yoga of self enquiry, self
realization and the purification of mind. Hatha Yoga is preparation
for Raja Yoga. The yoga master, Patanjali, wrote about this in his
definitive text on the philosophy and practice of yoga over 1500
years ago. His book, The Yoga Sutres, describes the eight steps of
yoga which culminate in self realization, enlightenment or direct
knowing of the truth of your Self.
For more than 25 years I've been facilitating the
Raja Yoga inspired meditation retreat, called the Enlightenment Intensive
Retreat. It focuses on self enquiry and self realization.
It was conceived and born from 3 spiritual traditions:
1) The 8 Step Path of Yoga described by Patanjali
and the ancient self enquiry yoga meditation, “who am I’ that
was brought to modern prominence by Ramana Maharshi.
2) The traditional Zen Buddhist meditation retreat
and its environment of attentive self reflection, presence and silence.
3) The two person modern, western, tantra-like communication
exercise, called an 'enlightenment dyad' that firmly and lovingly
directs your focused and relaxed concentration towards consciously
knowing the Self.
The Retreat inspires openness, trust, joy, acceptance,
love and understanding while encouraging one to soften what is ridged
and inflexible in the body, mind and feelings.
The Enlightenment Retreat also includes hatha yoga,
natural meditation, massage, the alchemy of breath, insightful lectures
and healthy vegetarian meals.
Practitioners of yoga, beginners to advanced, all
find that the Enlightenment Retreat rapidly accelerates the conscious
awakening of Self Realization and heart opening Love.
I invite you to explore the potency of the Enlightenment
Retreat for your personal and professional spiritual development.
Web site: www.selffoundation.com
Youtube.com: www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFvfXED53n8
Email: info@selffoundation.com
with love
Yoah Wexler, PhD
NEXT Australia Enlightenment Retreat
and Master Teacher Training
23-25 April 2008 Enlightenment Master Training
25-28 April 2008 Enlightenment Retreat
NEXT San Diego Enlightenment Retreat
Memorial Day Weekend, 21–27 May 2008 |










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New
Years Enlightenment Retreat 2008
Participants Journal & Poetry
This Group Journal is an experiment in expression.
A lap top computer was available for participants to keep a running
group journal of what was occurring for them during the Retreat. They
were able to use the computer to write their thoughts and feelings
about enlightenment and their process of transformation. No one had
to sign their name to the communication, so a double space between
lines is another person's thoughts. Below are some of the running
accounts that were found on the computer.
I’m feeling the joy and lightness of opening
myself fully to another and not holding anything back.
I feel like I have a task here. to break down the
barriers of who i have thought of myself as. ... That is my challenge
for this retreat.
I love it here. Life is so natural for me right
now. Nothing much needs to be forced or strenuously created
and yet I’m feeling so fulfilled. There is nothing more ordinary
than being what I am. Yes! And guess what? Its only the first day!
I'm noticing that my sensitivity to others and
myself is refining. I really enjoy this.
I don’t like to let certain people in. I
resist opening and allowing
them to touch me. I am afraid that if i make a gesture of friendship
first it’ll be rejected, even when i know that that isn’t
going to happen.
I am conscious of the joy of waiting for all my
Beloveds to find each other. I am conscious of the joy of waiting
in front of another while they journey their pathway. I am
conscius of the joy of waiting for my Beloved to see what I see in
front of me. I am conscious of the joy of going with them wherever
they want to play in this void of space and time. I am their
Beloved. I am my Beloved. I am the Beloved.
I am conscious of stuff around nakedness. I
fear I will not be accepted and/or loved fully by others if I completely
disrobe this body. I fear that my true beauty will be over
looked due to a judgement and/or fear of my naked body. Even
partially naked I am aware of tension around being judged.
I am who I am. For who I am is I am. Love me and
love others, for who I am. All ancestors, all who come before
me and after me are here. All are here, me.
I got to give up my desire for God! We are
all enlightened. I just need to be open to all others and allow
myself to be open, vunerable and accept all others as they are, and
shine me, my light, out. That is all that I need.
Sometimes when the Divinity Train comes into town,
there can be a little bit of ego stowed away in the caboose. But
it never gets past the station Master on arrival at its’ destination.
I surrender any need to be different than I am.
What I really got out of the Enlightnement Intensive
is really a WHOLE LOT of freedom to be myself!
After baring my soul with full commitment, in an
instant I realised that I was the only one in my universe AND ALWAYS
HAD BEEN. I had just lost my sense of myself. I realised that I was
the generator of my own lifeforce, and I needed NO ONE to validate
me.
Enlightenment
Who needs enlightenment?
Who needs enlightenment when another looks you in the eyes and asks
who you are, and you know the other means it.
When you look at another and you truly tell them who you are, and
the other looks at you, present and without judgement.
Who needs enlightenment when you find a friend - mother – father
- sister – brother.
When another is always ready to hold you in his arms.
When another fills you with so much rage, you feel you can lift a
mountain with two hands and look at what’s underneath.
When you find out your enemy is your own reflection.
Who needs enlightenment when you start hearing the voice of nature.
When you can look in the mirror and look through clear glass and
smile.
When you find a teacher.
When you can taste the love cooked by another.
When you give and receive so much compassion from others.
Who needs enlightenment when you share the same universe with another.
When you look at another and you both burst out with the joy of laughter.
When your true self is revealed.
Ah my beloved, who needs enlightenment when the truth itself makes
you laugh.
Who needs enlightenment when you’re in sane.
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Criticalness
and Self Inspection
by Charles Berner
Key Points:
- Being critical has nothing to do with telling the truth.
- The reason for being critical is to try and justify your own
bad acts and make them seem less bad.
- What you are critical of is actually about yourself.
- Being critical inhibits your own spiritual growth.
- Self Inspection is the solution to criticalness.
Self Inspection Dyad:
Tell me a way you have been critical of another.
Tell me something you have done that is similar to that.
The greatest shortcoming of modern people is critical speech. People
speak critically not only to each other directly but also about each
other, and about other groups of people. Critical speech is
the greatest of temptations and we are most likely to fall prey to
it. It is also the most damaging thing we do to each other, since
we in modern times are not likely to go around damaging others by
cutting their throats and things like that. Instead of cutting
the throats of others with a knife, we cut verbally. We find
many many subtle ways of doing this: "Oh dear, you
are looking so sweet today; where do you get that heavy lipstick?" We're
so adept at being verbally critical that we can cut just with the
tone of our voice. I can remember in high school that the ability
to make critical remarks about others was considered to be the greatest
gift. The more critical remarks you could make about other
people, the lower you could put them down by your clever statements,
the higher you stood in the eyes of your peers. It is a great
tragedy to live in a society that actually reinforces critical comments.
Critical has nothing to do with telling the
truth.
Being critical has nothing to do with telling the truth. You
can make a true observation about someone that could either be critical
or not depending upon your own state. If your own state is
one of being critical, then what you say, no matter what it is, will
tend to come out critical. You might say, "Why do you
part your hair like that?" to two different people. In
one case you are actually trying to find out why and in another case
you are making a subtle hack at the person because you are being
critical. Why do we do these things? It is very destructive
to our progress in life. The whole world actually is one family
and by being critical.of someone, either directly or indirectly,
you are cutting yourself off from that other. That separation violates
the fact that we actually are all connected. It is true that
we are all each ourselves, but it is equally true that we are all
related to each other, and when we cut that connection through a
critical act, we separate ourselves and stop our spiritual progress.
Criticalness and the stopping of one's own spiritual progress are
directly connected. It is our degree of spiritual contact that
determines how open and loving and in contact we are with other people. That's
all there is to it. You don't have to go by anything else.
If you know someone who is very pious, who says his prayers, and
everything, it all means nothing if he is critical of other people. Worse
than this, because of the fact that deep in our own ultimate nature
we are a font of kindness and love towards others, we will stop ourselves
from being in this true capacity if we hurt other people. We
will not be able to improve, because inwardly we feel that if we
improve ourselves then we will only hurt people more effectively. It
is out of our innate love and concern for others that we stop our
own growth.
The Reason for Criticalness
The reason we are critical is because we are trying to justify our
own bad acts and make them seem less bad. You can't live in life
without doing some bad acts. Even if you try not to, some will
happen, and we feel very badly about this. So in order to
try to make our own bad acts seem less bad, we try to make others
be as nothing, as worthless non-entities. This is the root
mechanism behind our criticalness. It all originates from
our own bad acts.
I remember World War II. We were fighting the Japanese, and
we were calling them names in the press, on the radio, and on television. The
Japanese were animals, Japs, vermin. People everywhere said, "The
only good Jap is a dead Jap." Why? Because we were killing
them and we felt badly about it and in order to try to not feel so
badly about it, we said they were animals and it was okay to kill
them because that was what they were doing to us. And so when
you deliberately or even inadvertently injure someone else, your
good heart makes you feel bad, and because you don't like that feeling
you try to make the object of your bad act to be less than it is. You'll
say, "That person's no good" because if he's no good, then
what you did or said to him couldn't be bad because he was no good
in the first place.
Say, for example, you kill a rat. You might say, "I had
to kill the rat. It was a good thing I got rid of it; it was
eating the grain. I had to kill it." We justify our acts. We
say, "That stupid, horrible rat, it tried to take our food." You
see, it is one thing to just go ahead and kill the rat; it is another
thing to be critical, to justify. This is a very important
difference. In life, you are going to have to do some bad acts;
it is the inevitable nature of life that you will do some bad acts. And
the tip-off that you feel internally bad about it, that you feel
guilty and upset and are stopping your own growth as a result, is
that you are being critical. This is true one hundred percent
of the time, without exception, when it comes to criticalness. Any
critical statement you have ever made, are making, or ever will make,
is always directly connected to a bad act on your part, in your own
estimation. "Why do I have such a stupid teacher at school?" It
is the person who is saying that who is stupid. He's not performing
well in school and so he calls his teacher "stupid." One
hundred percent of the time, the content of the criticalness is connected
to a similar type of act, not identical but similar, on the part
of the one being critical. The critical statement that one
makes about another person or other people is actually a failing
on one's own part.
"The only good Indian is a dead Indian." We don't say
that anymore because we no longer shoot Indians. But when we
shot Indians the only good ones were dead ones. You notice that since
we aren't shooting Indians anymore we no longer think they are so
bad. The truth is that we felt very bad about shooting Indians,
so we justified it by making them deserving of death, at least in
our own minds.
Very often these things don't come to the surface of your mind;
you don't even notice that you feel bad and that you are making these
critical remarks in order to justify your acts, to make it be that
the other person is no good, and therefore nothing bad was done.
The problem with this mechanism is that it doesn't work because in
your heart of hearts you still feel bad. It is only in your surface
mind that you temporarily feel that you have covered up the bad act. But
you in fact still feel bad that you made a critical remark, so you
try to cover for it.
Someone might say, "Yeah, all these people going around making
critical remarks ought to have their tongues cut out." This
is misdirected criticism. One in one's own heart is always
just being critical of oneself.
Self Inspection
This criticalness and covering up must be brought to an end for people
to progress in their spiritual growth. The solution is self-inspection. This
is the ultimate answer. The moment you find yourself being
critical of someone else, inspect your own behaviour. The
first thing to do in handling your own criticalness is to remain
silent. When you see somebody doing something and you are
just about to make a critical remark, don't make it. Psychologists
say this is bad, that you are suppressing yourself, that you are
holding all of your antagonism in. Yes, that's true. You
are holding your antagonism in. But you are going to do something
with it. After learning how to hold it in, you can then find
out where it is coming from. If you go ahead and let it out,
your chances of noticing that it is actually coming from a condition
of internal guilt and self-criticalness are almost nil. What
you should do is to hold your tongue, hold in that feeling of wanting
to get them, realize that it comes from your own shortcomings,
and then ask yourself, "What did I do; that I feel bad about?"
The person who will hold his tongue and do self-inspection to see
what his own bad act is in that same general category, is a superior
person. This ability is what shifts a person from being an
ordinary person to a superior person. The pivotal factors are
that you stop your own mouth, you look at your own criticisms, and
you say what it is that you have done or are doing. Realize
that it is probably something that you are still doing or are going
to do in the near future. Some people on the spiritual path
say, "Well, I must have done it in a past life, I must have
killed a hundred thousand people," and so on. No, the
real problem is that in your heart you feel that there is the possibility
that you are going to kill a hundred thousand people. That's
the real problem. Don't put it on some remote past life some
place. That's a cop-out. It is in this life, it is probably
right now, and you probably intend to keep on doing it. Because
you are not able to stop yourself, you feel bad about that.
Say a guy has an ulcer and he is in the hospital. He is on
Medi-Cal and he's running up a bill of $3OO a day. He's watching
the television and the governor comes on and while the governor is
talking the guy says, "He's a stupid fool; he's just wasting
the taxpayer's money." He thinks, "Well, I'm on Medi-Cal
but I've got ulcers; I can't do anything about that." Then he
thinks, "Wait a minute; I'm running up a bill of $300 a day
against the taxpayers of California and I can't stop it. Boy,
do I feel bad about that. In fact, I think that's why I've
got an ulcer."
It may take you hours of thinking, "What could it be? What
am I doing?" Someone else sitting right next to you could
even point it out to you, but pointing out other people's shortcomings
does not work just in itself. You must find it yourself and
you must see it.
A good leader is someone who is willing to admit his own shortcomings,
to admit them to himself. After that you need to admit it to
at least one more person besides yourself. Tell your Guru,
tell God, tell the trees, but let some of it out. And when
you are right on in admitting to yourself your own shortcoming, and
you honestly decide that you won't do it anymore, you are able
not to do it anymore, that will be the end of it. Your criticalness
will go away, your bad feelings will go away, and you will be more
open and loving towards others.
You actually don't have to do anything about it. You don't
have to serve anybody or even communicate anything, if you have found
the absolute core of your criticalness. If you haven't, then
you will have to do some service or communicate it, or tell it out
or something like that. But if you find exactly what the core
of that particular criticalness is that will be the end of it, it
won't go on anymore. It is like magic; the criticalness stops
instantly, and goes away. People will go on doing awful things
to you; they will still say nasty things about you, for example. But
no longer will you say, "Boy, that person has a bad mouth. He's
a jerk." You won't say that anymore. You will think, "Harry
is really having problems these days," just as an observation. There
is no charge in it for you now because you have admitted in your
heart of hearts the actual truth of what it is that you are still
now doing, and since you now intend to stop and are able to stop,
all that criticalness goes away. You can see Harry doing the
exact same thing and it won't bother you at all. There is no
emotional or mental charge. It is his problem. The person
is going around doing those same dumb things at work, but you don't
say, "Boy are you dumb," like it is your own problem. You
just observe the fact of the matter in the other person.
Everybody has their problems. God is unfolding his plan for
everybody's life and it's true that people are going through their
patterns, learning their lessons. But you can observe this
with no criticalness, instead of saying, "Boy, you'd better
get rid of Harry; he is going around saying bad things about people."
People normally don't notice. They say bad things about people
and they don't notice it. You must notice it. You must know
that this principle applies one hundred percent of the time and never
fails. If you are critical of someone else, it is always your
own shortcomings you are being critical of, and laying it on the
other person. It is always this way, and the particular thing
that bothers you is something that you've done in the same area,
When my Guru left Kayavarohana West after visiting here, he gave
me five instructions, and one of them was, "At the end of every
day, do self-inspection without being critical and ask yourself,
'How have I failed, how have I been mean to people?' Admit
it to yourself and look at those shortcomings." I have
done this and it has helped my spiritual progress immeasurably. Normally
it is not good to focus on negativity in life, but it is good to
identify your own failures, and then let go of them.
Realize that you can't live life without hurting people. You must
breathe, for example. But then you breathe out bad breath. You
can't hold your breath forever, so you say, "I'll use mouthwash." And
you spend your money on mouthwash instead of socks for your kids. Then
you think, "My kid is going around with holes in his socks. What
can I do? I should work harder." So you work harder,
overtime. Then your wife says, "Harry, you never come
home. I don't think you love me anymore. I've got ulcers worrying
about you." No matter what you do, there is going to be
some injury in the action of life. So be honest with yourself
about these things, that these things are happening, and are taking
place and you're involved with them, and do what you can do to stop
doing them. But be honest with yourself that these acts are
occurring. Then you will let yourself have a lofty standard
of failure, instead of saying, "All these creeds and religions
are crazy." You say they are crazy because if you don't have
any standard then you don't feel so bad, at least on the surface.
You think you won't feel so bad if everything is no good, including
me. But if you will let yourself have a standard of behaviour,
if you will identify your bad acts and be honest about them and not
justify them away or try to explain them away, you will improve rapidly
and truly be a superior person.
When you stop being verbally critical and you remove the grosser,
more obvious bad acts, then you will start to notice every little
thing. When you eat lettuce, you'll notice you are smashing
the life out of those lettuce petals. In your stomach you dissolve
those cells who are trying to fight for their life. Then you
rip the energy out of them and use it to go and watch television. As
you start progressing along, you'll start noticing those small things. But
first you have to remove the sharp tongue, the critical remarks,
and then you become the superior man, a person who notices the smaller
bad acts. Then you work on admitting those. And as you
admit them, you become liberated from them, and then the deep truths
underlying them become revealed to you, which is the next stage in
this whole business.
It is my recommendation to you that you make this a special project,
that even though you feel justified in making critical remarks, that
you try this: that you are just not going to make critical
remarks anyway. If you have to think to yourself,"if I
felt critical then there is something that I've done that is similar,
or something I failed to do that I feel I should have done. What
could it have been?" Don't put it on past lives. It is
right here right now. Keep at it, week in and week out, month
in and month out. And the benefit you will derive from this,
by gradually finding these things and being released from them, will
permit your spiritual progress to accelerate.
Without self-inspection you will hit a limit and not be able to
progress further in your spiritual growth. To go on to the
next phase of your development, make a real, sincere, continuous,
long-term project of self-inspection in the face of critical behaviour. You
may think, "Why should I? You're just trying to make me
guilty." No. In fact, if I could make you not guilty,
I would just take it all away. I would dissolve it in my heart,
but it is not my guilt. Only you can do it. You have
to be able to admit to the actual magnitude of your guilt, and when
you do you will temporarily feel like you are worse off. But
that guilt has been there all the time anyway, covered up, causing
ulcers, headaches, tension, whatever. By admitting it, you
become conscious of what it is that is bugging you,and it bugs you
because you in fact have a good and pure heart, but have done a bad
act. If you admit it, and then you can find its core, you can
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